Roundtable Discussions are held:
First Sunday of the month
4:00 P.M. – 6:30 pm Eastern Time
1:00- 3:30 pm Pacific Time
To Participate: Dial 1-626-677-3000
then press 673296 #
The SIA WSC Literature Committee & Gold Big Book Subcommittee is seeking your assistance in making our dream of an SIA Big Book come to life. To help with the creation of this text, we are conducting a series of roundtable discussions by experienced SIA members about various chapters in the book. You may listen in and participate in these discussions. Each discussion will be 2 ½ hours in length, and non-speaker panel members are encouraged to participate during the last portion of the meeting. Additionally, all SIA members are encouraged to share their experience, strength and hope in written form with the committee and participate in our monthly Literature Committee meetings on the first Monday of every month at 6:30 pm ET/3:30 pm PT. To participate in monthly Literature Committee meetings, call 712-451-6000; pin number: 190373 #
* If you’d like to participate in a future WSC SIA Roundtable Discussion as a Speaker Panel Member, feel free to contact Becky (firstname.lastname@example.org) or John+ (email@example.com)
The next Roundtable Discussion will be held
4:00 pm – 6:30 pm Eastern Time
1:00 pm- 3:30 pm Pacific Time
Dial 1-626-677-3000; then press 673296 #
When Mothers are Perpetrators:
Issues and Challenges
& Questions Panelists Will Address
When mothers abuse, the effects are often devastating. A person who has given birth to a child and often nurtured that child in infancy betrays that trust and suddenly is anything but kind and nurturing. Unfortunately, children who survive mother abuse have profound issues to cope with. Whereas men are often cast as perpetrators, women are usually not. Although today, many of us know that women can be as likely to abuse as men, some survivors find greater difficulty owning and dealing with the effects of mother abuse. For some, the betrayal that one experiences and the social stigma associated with abuse by a woman can make healing difficult. Today’s roundtable participants will address these issues.
Questions for Consideration
- What was the nature of the abuse that you received from your mother?
- · What other types of abuse (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) did you experience from your mother?
- · How did the abuse affect your perceptions of who you are, both as a young person and as an adult?
- · What life challenges have occurred for you as a result of your abuse, and how did you minimize or run from those challenges prior to recovery?
- · How has the abuse you received from your mother affected your capacity to engage in and form healthy intimate other relationships?
- · What aspects of your abuse have been most difficult for you to show up for in recovery, and why?
- · At SIA meetings, a majority of participants are usually women. How have you managed to work with the trauma triggering that occurs at meetings and avoid turning women at meetings into perpetrators when you’re triggered?
- · What solutions and recovery tools have proven to be most helpful for your recovery?
- · As a person who has been involved with recovery for sometime, what do you want others who’ve survived mother abuse to know about themselves and life’s possibilities?
Upcoming Roundtable Topics & Dates
Sunday, September 8:Anger: The Role of Owning & Expressing Anger in Empowering the Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse
PAST ROUNDTABLE DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Sunday, June 2, 2013: Exploration of Two Issues: Covert Incest & Problems for the Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor Created by Family Members that Were Not Sexual Perpetrators.
1. Covert childhood sexual abuse can be difficult to identify and pinpoint, please explain more about direct and indirect incest and the nature of the covert incest you experienced and the physical, emotional, mental or spiritual forms it may have taken.
2. What has your process been like in identifying this type of abuse and in believing the feelings of the wounded child within you? Have you spent time doubting yourself due to a lack of overt incest memories or other tangible evidence of incest or questioning your sexuality?
3. What incest symptoms do you identify with as a result of the covert incest you experienced?
4. Did you blame yourself either in the past or presently for any of your responses to covert incest?
5. As is often the case in overt and covert sexual abuse, conflicting feelings are often aroused in the victim. What was the nature of your emotional response to the perpetrator because of the abuse and how do you feel about your perpetrator(s) today?
6. If you have confronted your abuser, describe the process that led up to the event and what it has been like afterwards for you.
7. What are some of supportive or loving statements that you might make, or have made, to the confused, wounded child within who experienced and stored the feelings related to the covert sexual abuse?
8. What have been some of your most valuable supports or tools that you have used during your recovery from covert childhood sexual abuse?
9. Were there other forms of abuse or neglect operating in your family of origin?
10. How did your non-sexually abusive parent and/or other family members respond to you and what were some of the ways those responses contributed to the impact of your sexual abuse on you?
11. At what point were you at in your recovery process when you became aware that other forms of abuse and neglect in your family of origin had an impact upon you?
12. Are there any other common trauma reaction, arousal, blocking, splitting, abstinence, shame or repetition responses that you experience as a result of your relationship with non-sexually abusive family members
13. How did the overall milieu of sexual abuse and non-sexual abuse affect your sense of identity and purpose in life?
14. To what degree was codependency present in your family of origin and to what degree had you or have you recreated that codependency in your adult relationships?
15. Describe what your relationship is like with your non-sexually abusive family members today and any recovery tools you’ve used to work out your relationships with those family members.