On Spirituality & Religion
12-Step approaches have at their core a strong spiritual component. Thus we reference in our Steps and Traditions a loving “Higher Power.” For some this implies a God/Goddess, or other benevolent Being, for others it is a type of energy that pervades the universe, for yet others it means the collective wisdom of the Fellowship, and for still others, Higher Power is an internalized value set that transcends the conscious self and gently guides human actions.
Creating Safety & Support for Healing, Remembering & Working with the Emotional Content of Memories
Perhaps the most important act that any healing survivor must take is to build a safety or support network. Without support, it is virtually impossible to enter into painful memories, or even make it safe for such memories to emerge.
The Critical Role of Re-parenting in Recovering from Childhood Sexual Abuse & How to Become a Loving Inner Parent to All of Your Inner Kids
Re-parenting and parts work is at the core of healing from the wounds of childhood sexual abuse. It is a pathway for learning to provide self with the love and nurturing that every survivor deserves in abundance. Perhaps, most significantly, inner dialoguing and parenting work helps survivors to move past their pain by revealing that inside of many of these split off parts of self, there is not only pain but also, possibility.
Co-dependency & the Incest Survivor; Issues with Setting Safe Boundaries, Why Boundaries are Important & How to Go About Setting Them
Co-dependency is an issue virtually all survivors of childhood sexual abuse struggle with. In families where abuse occurs, enmeshment is commonplace. Children are not allowed to exist as autonomous beings. Rather, they are situated by parental behaviors as no more than extensions of caregivers.
Working with Trauma Triggers & Emotional Relationship PTSD Issues: How to Become Your Best Friend When Panic Overwhelms
Emotional relationship PTSD or trauma responses come in many forms. An authority figure or boss looks at us the wrong way at work and suddenly we’re certain we’re about to be fired because we know that authority figures will always hurt and betray us.
Healing the Mind-Body Split: Challenges & Solutions
One of the common reactions to childhood sexual abuse is to deny pain. In dysfunctional families, this denial process is the only means through which survivors can cope with the physical, emotional and mental pain that abuse creates. This denial often takes the form of a mind-body split.
Ism-Work: How to Use Desires to Act Out to Facilitate Healing From the Wounds of Childhood Sexual Abuse
There are many “Ism's” in the world of recovery. Many survivors of incest have or know someone that has an addiction to some form of mood altering chemical. Mood altering chemicals includes love addiction, sexual additions and food addictions. A survivor usually uses a mood altering chemical or behavior to negate or create a feeling.
Covert Incest & Problems for the Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor Created by Family Members that Were Not Sexual Perpetrators
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When Mothers Are Predators
When mothers abuse, the effects are often devastating. A person who has given birth to a child and often nurtured that child in infancy betrays that trust and suddenly is anything but kind and nurturing. Unfortunately, children who survive mother abuse have profound issues to cope with.
Anger: The Role of Owning & Expressing Anger in Empowering
Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
We have often gone to extremes to avoid feeling anger. Most often we have exchanged guilt for anger and paid a very high price since guilt evokes self-destructive behavior in many incest victims.
The Role of Working Steps 1-3 in Healing from the Wounds of Childhood Sexual Abuse
$10This roundtable discussion focuses upon the critical role that working Steps 1-3 plays in recovering from the wounds of childhood sexual abuse. Steps 1-3 provide a critical foundation for later step work. They provide a means for walking into the intense terror, anger, shame, abandonment and grief that all survivors of childhood sexual abuse experience. They allow us to admit that we were abused and come to understand the coping mechanisms we developed as children to cope with the abuse.